95 | Living Out of Alignment? Why Your Three Values Decide Your Next 90 Days

Hey friend. Welcome back to Midlife Transformation for your Sunday Solace episode. I'm so glad you're here — whether you've got your coffee, your Bible, or you're just sitting in a quiet car trying to steal five minutes before the day finds you, this is your space. 

Today I want to talk about something that sounds simple on the surface — values — but I promise you, by the time we're done, it's going to name something you've been carrying for a while. Something you maybe haven't had words for yet.

Because here's what I know, and if you've been listening to this podcast for any amount of time, I know that you are not lazy. You are not uncommitted. You are not a woman who doesn't care.

You are a woman who is living out of alignment. That is the difference.

I want to take you back to a season in my own life. After my CLL diagnosis — after I got that news and the world kind of tilted for a minute — I did something I hadn't done in a long time. I got really quiet and I looked at my life. Not the life I said I was living. The actual life. The one my calendar told on me. The one my 9 p.m. exhaustion told on me.

And what I saw was this: I said Christ was first. I said my kids were everything. I said my health mattered. But my days? My days told a different story. I was pouring from a cup I never filled. I was saying yes to everything except the things I said mattered most. Shortly after, I began working with Life Coach.

And that gap — that space between what you say you value and what your Tuesday actually looks like — that is exactly where women like us lose ourselves. Quietly. Slowly. One small misdirected yes at a time.

Colossians 2:6 and 7 says this: "So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness."

Rooted. Built up. Strengthened.

That word rooted — it's not passive. A tree doesn't accidentally get rooted. There's intention in it. There's depth in it. The roots go down before anything goes up.

And here's what I've learned in my own life, and what I believe with everything in me: He does not leave us. We leave Him. And most of the time, we don't leave all at once. We drift. One compromise, one skipped quiet morning, one season of running on fumes — and slowly, our lives stop reflecting what we actually believe.

Values are the root system. When you don't know what they are — or you know what they are but you're not living them — everything above the ground starts to wobble.

So today I want to walk you through the very first piece of work we do inside Rooted — my 90-day coaching program — because I believe it belongs here, on this podcast, with you, today.

It's called your Personal Life Priority Code. And it starts with one deceptively simple question: What do you actually value?

Not what sounds good. Not what you think a good Christian woman is supposed to say. What actually influences how you think, how you act, and how you structure your days.

Here's how the process works, and I want you to grab a journal if you have one nearby.

Step one: You review a core values list. There are categories like Adventure, Beauty, Spirituality, Connection, Integrity, Harmony, Contribution, Compassion — and under each one, there are words. Specific words. Things like faithfulness, presence, authenticity, wisdom, encouragement, belonging. Your job in step one is just to read through them slowly and notice what resonates. Not what looks impressive — what resonates. What feels like yes, that's me. Or sometimes — and this is the one I want you to pay attention to — what you want to dismiss as silly or too simple. Because sometimes that's exactly the value you've been ignoring.

Step two: You choose your top 10. Not your absolute, forever, carved-in-stone top ten. Just ten that speak strongly to you right now, in this season.

Step three: You narrow to three. And this is where it gets real. These three aren't just your favorites — they're the three you believe will most help you move toward the life you've said you want. The life God is calling you into. Your Final Selection. Your Personal Life Priority Code for the next 90 days.

Now here's why this matters: Grace, you have tried the devotionals. You have bought the planner. You have started the program. And somewhere around week three, life happened and you stopped. Not because you're a quitter. Because you were trying to build on sand. You were trying to do the right things without knowing why they were right for you specifically.

Matthew 7:24 — the wise builder doesn't just build. She builds on rock. Your values are the rock. Everything else — the habits, the rhythms, the goals — those are the house. But the house has to be built on something.

The goal of the first 90 days isn't a new you.

I need you to hear that, because every program you've ever tried has promised you a transformation. A glow-up. A total life overhaul. And friend — that's exhausting before you even start.

The goal of Rooted is to get back to the real you. The you that's been under the noise. The you that God designed before the busyness buried her.

Content over perfect. Rooted over striving. God provides the enough. And your job in the first 90 days is to figure out what "enough" actually looks like when it's built on what you truly value.

Breathe. Move. Pray. Practice gratitude. Those aren't Instagram phrases for me — those are the daily rhythm that holds the whole structure up. And they only become consistent when you know what you're doing them for.

That's why values come first. Always.

If this episode named something for you today — if you felt that gap between your stated values and your actual Tuesday — I want to invite you into something, and I am also asking you to share this with a friend.

I'm currently offering one-hour Rooted coaching calls. One hour, just you and me. We'll walk through your Personal Life Priority Code together. We'll look at what your first 90 days could actually look like — not a generic plan, your plan, rooted in what you specifically value and where you specifically are right now.

Message me at 970.279.1818 ~  It's one hour. It might be the most important hour you spend this season.

Until next time.

Rachael D. Arnold, M.Ed., Certified Transformation Life Coach
970.279.1818

https://ggtlife.com/